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Since this morning I have been thinking what should I write in my next blog. And finally tonite while I was preparing dinner, the food was cooking over the flame and some thoughts were cooking in my mind. Half of my mind was occupied as what to write and half , thinking whther my dish would turn out to be nice or not... :)
Ultimately the dish turned out to be a perfect one... and my family were enjoying every bite of it.
It was a perfect moment and the smile on my face was to be seen. I was happy.
And BOOM... this is what i have been thinking upon... HAPPINESS...
When I used to be a student, my desire was to get perfect scores in all subjects. The ratio of my input to output was equal. The more I used to study the more I used to get and vice versa. Till I joined college, my desire was to score good marks. During the placement time, my desire was to get through a good organization. Afterall it was my career!!! I still remember those olden days, we friends used to prepare and go for the tests together. I, mostly, used to stay irritated and upset at home. It was really a hard time untill I got through the placement. That was a moment to remember. I was so happy and full of joy, holding the offer letter, that I can not even express right now. I started imagining things about how to spend my earning, shopping till i drop, freaking out and watching movies, going to excellent restaurants every now and then, ahh a lot more... a pretty long list.
I started earning, and spending as I had thought.. everything was going smooth till I realized that I was actually fed up of the same routine. Every morning had to rush to office, sometimes after a quick breakfast and often skipping it, same kind of work, have something edible for lunch, come home with the groceries and veggies, prepare something (edible again and which would get prepared quickly), talk over phone with family members and far away friends and closed ones, sleep. Every working day was almost similar. Over the weekends, it was again kind of similar routine, waking up late, having a brunch, washing clothes, hang out with friends which included either shopping or a movie, going to a sea beach sometimes and dining together.
My grey cells were almost defunct, I was feeling like a machine. There was something which was missing. I was not happy with the way my life was going ahead. I wanted more and more. I was becoming greedy. It kept me bugging as why was I not happy as I got what I wanted. Proffessionally, it was all ok, personal life was doing good. Every alternate weekend I used to visit home and meet my family, still there was something fishy. I was not happy, or say satisfied with my life.
It kept my grey cells bothering for a while and then ZZZZZZOOOOMMMM... there it was... the thing called 'DESIRE'.
Till the time every pre-desires of mine was fulfilled, I was happy achieving them but as soon as it all accomplished, my list of desires kept increasing, I actually forgot that I had many other small but important things to do and achieve.
I started doing my small activities like poetry writing, writing articles for my company magazine, music ( universal hobby), learning new recepies. I started enjoying all these. These were all small things but I was really happy.
I was always scared of driving cars, and finally when I learnt driving I thought I had achieved a great thing. When I drove down from a shopping mall to my place, about 4km long distance, I was so elated that I reached home safely, driving from a crowded road, without a single scratch on my car.
There was another incident, where I rode snow scooter, all alone, on highest pass of Dhauladhar Range (Rohtang Pass), surrounded with snow all over. It was such a thrilling experience of life, that has motivated me to ride a water scooter too. Let me share a fact that I do not know how to drive a scooter or a motorbike. I discovered an adventurous Rupayany. Wow... I never knew that I would love adventure so much. It was scary though but that moment, that adrenaline rush, all that excitement gave a backseat to my fear. It was a moment of exuberance.
I used to hate getting drenched in rain, but today I went and got totally drenched, I must admitt that its a lovely feeling. Small children were enjoying too, shouting and playing. Its all so much fun. I was actually happy, singing songs.
These small things give so much happiness in life that we generally tend to ignore. There have been many such moments with me and i hope, even with all my readers. I have felt it and realized it. I am sure even you would experience them too.
Happiness surrounds us always, we just need to explore it.
9 comments:
hey
its seems our autobiography more than actual meaning of "happiness".
or it might be ur perspective to explore it into herself then gernalize it. up to d certain extend its true. u always become happy after getting that thing whch u were dying to get.
but wat i think dat all the things said by u is not covering the complete domain of happiness.
when i c myself as a individual one then defination of happiness is different
i feel happy when i see a rose in my garden. i also feel happy when i paly with kid (not mine m still a bachalor :)). i feel happy when i take revenge. i feel happy when i narrow escape. n some time i feel happy when i think about someone.
i feel happy when my parents c me as a gud son.
n when i c myself as a part of any community then immediately the definition of happiness changes.
now as a INDIAN i feel happy when INDIA wins d cricket world cup(T20).
i feel happy when AGNI missile is successfully tested.
i fell happy when i talk about INDIAN CULTURE
when i think about welfare of my country then i think that scarifies of personal love is nothing. (but keep in mind dat as a individual one its a biggest thing n another fact is dat a person has to live most of the part of his/her life as a individual one)
so as a part of any community i m happy even when i m loosing a most important thing n as individual one m not happy.
n happiness changes its mode with time also.
when i was a child i used ti feel happy after getting rasgulla.
i alos felt happy when i got my videogame n there are too may other incident also.
but now all these thing don hav much meaning to me.rasgulla is just a sweet now.n video games are borring
SO all i want to say is dat NOBODY CAN DEFINE THE ABSLUTE HAPPINESS.
coz it defers with perspactive n time.
n whenever u get the chance to b happy then don let that moment go.
live it enjoy it.
n never pass the life in chasing the happiness. it comes as soothing air of spring along with its fragrance.
Hey Yatendra,
You have caught the nerve of the blog... that is what is being said, that happiness is around you.. In this blog I have presented my casestudy (for studiuous and academically inclined technocrats). Although your rashogulla thing inspires me to write about my autobiography including my other sweet memories.
Happiness is a very tricky word. The whole world revolves around it. A man, A family, A team, A nation, all running behind it. I will say it has two forms.
First is accomplishment of your desire or ambition. For example, you are watching a cricket match. You desperately want India to win. Some people do all kind of superstitious activity, like not changing place. Now if India wins, we all are happy. There will be some chat, ‘Sachin played well’, ‘No no Rahul was there till end’. This is nothing but achieving your goals. Getting a good job, Visiting Taj Mahal. Can be anything! All fall in this category.
Second one. It’s the spontaneous one. Someone slips in the road, someone cracks unexpected jokes, or an infant is talking in his own language. You never know when you will come over such situations. But they remain in your memory for ever. When you will be in group chat (or Khatti in Oriya), always those thoughts will cross over your mind. With excitement you say ‘U know when I was in Chennai…’
I will not say we are not getting these moments now. But true a lot less. May be due to routine life. The main cause I can say because our friend cycle got narrowed. Most busy in their life. Mobile , gtalk , orkut ate the medium to reach them. Fox example, I did not meet Sameer ( my roommate for 4 years) in last 2 years & once in last 4 years. Time is the key.
Whenever these kinds of topics come, I thought about my UU days. The five best years of my life. Where I made true friends. And that really makes me happy. Thanks Rupayanee. You r blog remind me of better years.
Hi there,
Your blog read like an account of your life so far and things and moments that have provided you happiness. It’s your bolg, your thought so you decide how to put it. But personally I think if you can be little objective in your writing added with a pinch of personal experience and emotions that will make it even a better read.
Now to the crux of your writing – what is happiness and from where do we seek. From your blog its quite apparent that you find happiness when you have fulfilled YOUR desires and achieved success. So I am not drawing the conclusion here that you are a narcissist, egotist, and self obsessed individual (May be you become happy for the success of your fellow people around). But in reality who does not get happiness in his or her success. But that’s a Machiavellian thinking about people that they yearn for self aggrandizement. On the contrary we do get happy by seeing others happy too. So the domain of happiness is vast and it certainly mean different things for different people and fore sure it evolves with you and time.
Milan Kundera wrote in one of his novel that “happiness is the longing for repetition”. We like similar things and moments that have given us happiness in the past to occur more often in our life. Things that are recorded in our “poetic memory” that charms and touches us, that makes our life beautiful. Would like to know your comments on that!
Keep writing.
Regards,
Dillip
Hey Dilip,
Whatever u said is right and I too agree on that part except the personality analysis part. As mentioned in your comment, everyone gets happy when one's wishes are fulfilled.
Its a common phenomena for all.
Whatever i have tried to say, is an encouraging fact that happiness is around you and one needs to explore it.
My perpespective on general issues around us would always be debatable, but when it comes to my life, as shared in the blog, is mine and I respect other's thought. I welcome your thoughts.
Its true that while achieving bigger goals or fulfilling our main desires, we tend to overlook the small things that can make us happy. Good to know that you realized it.
I am not going to term this as your own happiness though the whole experience is defined in your context. But again, the idea remains same for everyone. Everyone has his own set of dreams. People try to realize their dreams in their own way. Sometimes they get them and sometimes they could not. A person should always fathom in getting that happiness irrespective of the fact whether they have realized their dream or not. The failure to achieve something gives another reason to fulfil their dream. Once they achieve it after the failure in the past that brings immense pleasure to them.
In your depiction of happiness is one side of getting your dreams turned into reality and I must say you were lucky enough to cook a delicious dish and at the same time getting a perfect idea to write a blog on an ambiguous topic. You cooked your dreams, spiced with your happiness, so well that you got your family content and your readers too. In this process of realizing your dreams you got your defuncting grey cells rejuvenated also. It was a brave effort and every bits and pieces fall in place and we as a reader got a nice experience to go through.
It would have contained a few more pictures (Symbolic if not the personal ones).
In my context - When you do something as per your inner self and if the outcome of that brings happiness for you and if it does not hurt anybody. And then you feel brimming with content and then that feeling turns into a smile from your inner core.
All I can say is - Finding Happiness out of your busy schedule wherein you have a lot of commitments first is quite tough. But when you take break and follow the unusual course you find it spread everywhere you go whatever you do.
its very good...
Thanks Anupam,
finally u got time to go thru my blog... It was nice to see your point of view.
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